A leader who had no title-3

Hi there, my awesome reader and visitor of my knowledgeable blog, thank you for being part of this amazing series of book review, of the book titled "A leader who had no title" which has been shared by David Joseph,

If you missed the first two principles, then click here to read first principle, and here to read second principle.

Enjoy the third principle as shared by David. And this time around David sounded rude sometime 😂, please don't take words personal!!

 3. THE DEEPER YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, THE STRONGER YOUR LEADERSHIP

Ladies and gentlemen, I have to say this to you all. Leaders are humans, not angels. And  they do lead people, not machines. For the matter of fact, being a leader does not exclude you from being a human. This sense of humor separates great leaders and mediocracy. Ooh yes, I said it, mediocracy!!! It sounds offensive isn't it? Maybe it does, I'm sorry anyway!!

As a leader, and a person, you will have to relate strongly with people around you, with people you lead, your teammates, your co-workers. Your hearts must be humble, and your souls must be real so that you can have an opportunity to learn from them. Being a leader does not mean that you know everything, you need people to move your organization, a company or whatever you are leading to a better level.

We are currently living in the era of more technology than any time in history, and yet we are experiencing less humanity. Be humane. We are clearly more sophisticated than we've ever been. But perhaps we've never been so unwise. Embrace wisdom. You'll all agree with me that people don't seem to have real conversations anymore. There is too much texting instead of talking. As a leader, you must reach your people physically and personally instead of just hiding yourself under the shadow of technology. What I'm trying to say here is, being a great leader is all about a glorious focus on people. Believing in them, engaging them, bonding with them, serving them, and above all, celebrating them. If you want to be a great leader, and a great person, become a walking, talking, living and breathing hub that radiates positive energy, excellence and kindness to every person you are fortunate enough to help. 

Building deep, high-trust and spectacularly strong relationships with people is one among the greatest and yet the most underrated key elements to exceptional leadership and personality. If you are at school, college, work-place or even at home. Whether you are in business, organization or enterprise, everyone matters. If you are working in an organization, everyone in that organization matters. Everyone within enterprise is important. If you truly want your team to do wonders in the field they are spinning, as a leader, you must ensure that every teammate is engaged and connected.

As a leader, and as a person, you should keep in mind that everyone you meet-regardless of their title or their phenotype-is someone's son or daughter. Everyone has a story that's worth hearing and knows some lessons worth learning. Be humble, get involved and learn from them for only the humble will improve says the jazz great Wynton Marsalis. Nothing special ever gets done alone. The bigger your dream is, the more important the team will be!! Sounds skeptical right? Ooh yeah, as bitter as it is just take it!!

Great leaders of tomorrow, please don't be those types of mediocres that preach what they don't live and teach what they don't do. Never engage yourself with those bullies that keep telling their people, "follow my words, not what I do". Great leaders of tomorrow, never fall into this stupid and egoric trap, lead by example! Leading by example is one of the most powerful and important tools for positively influencing change in other people. You will agree with me that people always resist change, simply because forcing them to become all you know they can be shuts them down instead of lighting them up as this makes them feel stifled off their personal freedom. As a leader, you should always give your best in writing your own story of how great you can be. This will not only help others to see a vision of what they can become, but will also motivate them to write their own stories of what they can be as leaders and as humans.

As a leader, you should learn to shut down the chaos of your ego and listen, understand, help and nurture your people so that they can become better versions of themselves. More important, be awesomely nice to them. Being nice isn't being weak. Please don't fall into a trap of confusing kindness with weakness. Great leaders learn to brilliantly balance being compassionate and being courageous, being friendly and being firm. Being sincere with being strong. They definitely put people and relationships first and their highest priority. I must warn someone here, I did not say that you should not demand the highest performance, the largest commitment and the most spectacular results. All I'm saying is, you as a leader, should manage to be tender and tough at the same time! I know that this balance point is too rare to get it right, but with dedication and practice, you'll get there. Be persistent and patient.

To wind up the principle, the deeper your relationships, the stronger your leadership, I must insist that every person, as a leader, naturally needs to be respected and appreciated. But as a thumb of rule, giving always starts the receiving process. Give away that which you most wish to receive. That's one of the most valuable rules I can give you. If you want more support from your people, give them more support. If you want more appreciation, give more appreciation. If you want more respect, you need to be giving more respect. And then it will come back to you in a river! This is the law of reciprocity and it applies profoundly in leadership and human nature. Just remember that this law simply speaks to the fact that people naturally feel an intense obligation and desire to reply to the kindness and support that someone else has given them. We have this innate human tendency to want to be good to people who have been good to us. So the creation of value for others and being exceptionally nice to them sets up this desire within them to return the favor. Now of course you want to do all of this from a place of good intention. You want to be good to people because it’s the right thing to do as opposed to doing it to manipulate them into feeling obliged to give you what you want. To help and give with no real expectation of anything in return is a real gift. Anything less is no gift at all. And when you give from this generous mind-set, like I'm saying, dazzling positive results will come your way and you will take your leadership and personality to the next level!!! In leadership, relationships matter!

After reading the third principle, hopefully you have already recognize yourself as the leader. Do you have an idea of what David will share with us in his last principle??

Read the first principle here

Read the second principle here