Friendship heals and hurts

We all go through the ups and downs of life. There are moments where you even feel like the whole weight of the universe is on your shoulders but that's life.

The ups and downs of life play a big role in defining the concept of friendship.
I was very impressed by a friend of mine Khadija Mkunganilwa who said, friendship is a lovely union between people who are admiring each other, spending time together and helping each other.

We all need good friends like we need air,food and shelter. Carol King in his song you've got a friend expresses the critical roles good friends play in our lives.

Good friends enhance the quality, the pleasure and the health of each other and that's why friendships have to be cultivated to be meaningful over years.

Good friends are open and honest with each other. They tolerate each other's weaknesses and appreciate in each other's celebrations.

They are always there for each other during illness and setbacks; they mourn the losses of each other as a loss of part of themselves as Eleanor Roosevelt puts it that, many people will walk in and out of your life but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart.

Finding a true friend feels like a gift that keeps on giving even when they're thousand miles away.

You know that some of the feelings and experiences you shared with friends during good times and sad are among your most cherished memories.

Through your stressful moments and inevitable break ups, your best friends have always been there to console you and that's why Oprah Winfrey said, you should surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.

The challenge is,some of our best friends turn hostile and become Backstabbing Fake Friends instead of Best Friends Forever as Marshall Segal puts it that, too often, those we let near in love leverage precious trust to serve themselves at our expense to betray us.

That, some of our friends take for granted the enough latitude we give them. They stand in our ways and inflict lots of pain to us and that's why you should be very careful before you entrust someone as a friend.

There are friends, there is family and there are friends that become family. Before you start looking for a a good or best friends make sure you become a best friend that others are looking for as Raph Waldo Emerson said, the only way to have a friend is to be one.

Social media like *Facebook, Twitter, instagram* and many others enable people to make new friends from all over the globe but most of the online friendships are more virtual than real for they actually have no deep engagements.

As for me, social media can never replace the intimacy of face to face interactions.

Trust me or not, good friends are those who can defend you even at your absence when everyone is against you. If you don't have one then be one because in the cookie of life, friends are the chocolate chips.

Written by,
Nicodemus J Nangale
@nguvu ya maarifa

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